Last week I faced my first 'disapproving' conversation as a homeschooling mother (of one), from a family member.
I did not respond well, at all, sad to say. Indeed I did not respond at all, I reacted.
And as a result I have been stewing for a few days, and am learning some really hard lessons.
This homeschooling journey is different, and goes against what is considered normal for many people, but especially the older generation. I think my friends and colleagues, and those people that live in the same town as me can understand it more, because it is all around us here - it is a viable and somewhat common, if not popular educational choice for our children.
But for an older generation...I need to have grace. And I have been challenged: In disagreements, others are entitled to their opinion, which does not need to affect me. That takes some maturity!
Secondly, the challenge is to guard the relationship from fracturing during this period of seeing things differently. I've been reading a book on Bono from U2 recently, and with all his Aid work he comments that you don't always have to see eye to eye to get along. Truth.
Isn't this always the hard part? Responding with love, not reacting with anger, hurt or even spite....
Grace and Love.
Food for thought huh?
It so not easy when it's family....I was also first challenged by a family member. I find that as I learn more I've realised just how much my mind set about learning has to change, so I can't imagine how much of a mindset change it is for those who aren't doing it?!
ReplyDeleteThe way I feel about being challenged now: Being challenged just helps you to think about what you truly believe, and prepares you to react with grace for the next challenge ;-)